Romance seems to be a lost art these days. Movies make fun of it, celebrities (usually men) roll their eyes on talk shows about it, and very few people seem to know what it really is. One misconception is that romance must include flowers, candy, expensive jewelry or a memorable night on the town. While these things are nice, they may or may not be romantic. At its very core, true romance is knowing the object of your affection very well, and anticipating what he or she wants and needs. Study your mate and memorize likes and dislikes, then behave and gift accordingly. Sometimes the most romantic thing you can do is be still and listen with your whole heart. Sometimes it means meeting your husband at the door au natural, with a cold drink in your hand, at the end of a long day. In short, romance means doing or saying what your loved one wants and needs without being asked. Often it costs you nothing, but adds incredible value to the relationship. It’s in the KNOWING what they want that makes it romantic. It means you’ve paid attention and studied them until you know, without them saying a word, exactly what they want. So, if your marriage has gotten a thin layer of dust over it, recommit yourself to being romantic. You will be amazed at the results!
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There it was again. The toilet seat up. Even after I’d asked him, ever so politely, to please put it down. Even after I’d fallen into the cold bowl when I stumbled in there in the middle of the night. There it was, up again. I felt my blood starting to boil, and - quite suddenly - it hit me. This just simply wasn’t something I needed to get my way about. What was I, unable to put the seat down? Broken arm? Too dumb to work the hinge? So much of a baby that I had to insist he ready the pot for me each time he used it? Nope. None of those applied to me, so I made a conscious decision to never mention it again.
That was about seven years ago, and, in the ensuing years, there have been several other “sacred cows” that have been sacrificed on the altar of marital harmony. My husband is a wonderful man, and if he leaves every toilet seat up in every house we are ever in together, he will still be wonderful. What a difference it made when I decided to put him ahead of myself in this area. I wonder what else I will get to give up in the future…
Greetings! My name is Melinda Jane Wilson Thompson, and I have been married to my wonderful husband, Jeff for 30 years. The vision for a website such as this has been burning in my soul for a very long time. The first 20 years of our marriage were, for lack of a better word, crappy! We had such financial struggles, marital struggles, parenting struggles…you name it, we struggled about it! There were months at a time where I felt so lonely I thought I would die, and I would have given anything to be able to have a safe place to vent about what we were going through. That is the purpose of this site: to allow you, the readers, to write in with your questions or concerns, and then we will work together toward a solution. You can comment on someone’s concerns, or you can comment on my comments about those concerns. My passion is to create a caring community with the purpose of strengthening marriages and families in this country and all around the world.
In my adult lifetime I have been a roofer, a plumber, a carpenter’s helper, a concrete worker, a seamstress, a wedding videographer and photography assistant, a landscape engineer, and newspaper deliverer. When I finally “grew up” and got my children into school, I became a junior high math teacher, which is what I’ve done for the past several years. Currently, I have entered yet another phase of my life; that of caring for an aging parent. Every season of our lives has had its unique challenges, but the grace of God has sustained us in each one. We now have a wonderful marriage and four marvelous, grown children, and I feel compelled to share with others what has been so freely given to us. So, here is your invitation to join us. Blog in with your question, concern or comment, and we will find answers together.
