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See? Up...

There it was again.  The toilet seat up.  Even after I’d asked him, ever so politely, to please put it down.  Even after I’d fallen into the cold bowl when I stumbled in there in the middle of the night.  There it was, up again.  I felt my blood starting to boil, and - quite suddenly - it hit me.  This just simply wasn’t something I needed to get my way about.  What was I, unable to put the seat down?  Broken arm?  Too dumb to work the hinge?  So much of a baby that I had to insist he ready the pot for me each time he used it?  Nope.  None of those applied to me, so I made a conscious decision to never mention it again.

That was about seven years ago, and, in the ensuing years, there have been several other “sacred cows” that have been sacrificed on the altar of marital harmony.  My husband is a wonderful man, and if he leaves every toilet seat up in every house we are ever in together, he will still be wonderful.  What a difference it made when I decided to put him ahead of myself in this area.  I wonder what else I will get to give up in the future…

Greetings! My name is Melinda Jane Wilson Thompson, and I have been married to my wonderful husband, Jeff for 30 years. The vision for a website such as this has been burning in my soul for a very long time. The first 20 years of our marriage were, for lack of a better word, crappy! We had such financial struggles, marital struggles, parenting struggles…you name it, we struggled about it! There were months at a time where I felt so lonely I thought I would die, and I would have given anything to be able to have a safe place to vent about what we were going through. That is the purpose of this site: to allow you, the readers, to write in with your questions or concerns, and then we will work together toward a solution. You can comment on someone’s concerns, or you can comment on my comments about those concerns. My passion is to create a caring community with the purpose of strengthening marriages and families in this country and all around the world.

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